I rarely take a vacation and when I do I'm prone to take "working" vacations. You know - the kind where you go camping or go visit family, etc. I end up cooking and cleaning and helping out. It's not a vacation - it's just a change of scenery.
One of my favorite "vacation" memories was a trip I took to New Orleans back in 1999. It was clearly a working vacation because it was a student affairs conference - NASPA (National Association of Student Personnel Administrators) - and my goal at the conference was to get a job. I was nearly done with my graduate program and out interviewing for jobs in the field of career development. My sister lived not too far from New Orleans so I did get a night visiting with her, but most of the time was spent attending conference sessions and interviewing. It was a success and I did garner a job offer and later accepted the position. And I have wonderful memories of spending my evenings with the Hubster exploring the clubs and restaurants of New Orleans. It's a very bittersweet memory now because that city is now gone. New Orleans of today is a very different place.
I wanted to take a break from the blog because I have some seriously strong emotions flowing and I was afraid I wouldn't be able to edit out those emotions. I was afraid I'd write something I wouldn't want to have published.
It's not that I'd regret what I'd write. I rarely regret anything I say or do. It's not in my nature. I make PLENTY of mistakes. But when I make mistakes I don't say to myself that I shouldn't have done it or regret doing it. I learn my lesson and move on.
It's that moving on that's helped me to learn and grow most in my life. I don't second-guess myself and act with conviction.
I know I offend people and I have no interest in changing that. I wish more people were willing to offend others. I wish more people KNEW who they were and would stand fast in their values - even if their values don't match mine. I just want people to believe - in something for crying out loud - and stand fast in their beliefs. I'm tired of apathy and I'm so darn tired of people doing things just to be accepted by "the group." I'm tired of sheep who can't make up their own minds and instead just follow the flock. I'm tired of herd mentality and tired of people who stick their heads in the sand and pretend their lives will always be just as they are now.
Maybe it's because my life has been turned upside down a few times in my past or just because I live life as it comes, but I can see the horizon and know that just like New Orleans after Katrina, things are about to change and it's time for us to wake up and recognize that. It's time to stop listening to the other sheep and pay attention to the signs that are all around us.
I know my lifestyle isn't for everyone and I have no interest in converting anyone. I simply share what I do and share what I know. Back when I was a La Leche League Leader we'd start our meetings letting mothers know that they'd be hearing and seeing a lot things that might be new or different to them. And we'd invite the mothers to, "take what works for your family and leave the rest behind."
Just do me a favor, eh? Think about what you're doing and WHY you're doing it. Decide for yourself based upon your values and real facts if it's the best way to go or if it's the best choice for your family. Think ahead and decide if what you're doing will help you in 10 years or 20 years or if another course of action would be more beneficial. What we all do affects the lives of others - especially our children. Let's just take care that our actions have the effects we intend.
- A 40 something mama meandering through life an 8 year old girl (the big girl) who is a ball of lightening and a 5 year old girl (the baby girl) who brightens our lives with her smiles. I'm grounded by my 40 something husband and partner (the hubster) whose quirky mannerisms brighten my days. Our family is rounded out with with an eclectic 21 year old boy-man (the boy) who I hardly ever right about now since he's off starting his own life.
I've been a single mama, married mama, divorced mama, career mama, SAHM, and WAHM. There was a short time of my life when I wasn't a mama, but that was a LONG time ago!
I hold an AA, BS, and MA and most say I'm wasting them by devoting my intellectual capabilities and energy in the nurture of the wee ones that I've been entrusted to raise, but there is nothing else I'd rather be doing these days. :)
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