It's the boy's birthday today. He is now 18 years old - an adult in our society. Yet he's not. He's still my little boy.
I look at him and remember the chubby little baby, the smiling toddler, the curious preschooler, and the funny little boy. I remember the awkward teenage years and the wisdom and humour he brings to my existence.
As with all of my children he's taught me so very much. He reminds me to see the wider perspective. His empathy reminds me to consider the feelings of others and to consider the "whys" of peoples' actions and to have compassion. He has a knack for seeing the side of an argument I'd prefer to ignore.
We're so very different, he and I, and yet he's one of my closest friends. We have almost nothing in common. He leans toward the conservative and I toward the liberal. He supports bans on gay marriage and I support equality for all. I detest RPGs and video games. I have no patience for the manga and games he likes. I can't even begin to understand teen culture of today and we struggle some days to find enough common ground to have a conversation.
And yet, he'll patiently listen to my discussions about the latest sewing project or the new canning recipe I want to try. And I try so hard to understand why the latest game is holding his attention and listen patiently to his explanation of the strategy that gets him to the next level.
I love him. It's that simple.
I'm so blessed that he came to us and give thanks for his energy and presence.
- A 40 something mama meandering through life an 8 year old girl (the big girl) who is a ball of lightening and a 5 year old girl (the baby girl) who brightens our lives with her smiles. I'm grounded by my 40 something husband and partner (the hubster) whose quirky mannerisms brighten my days. Our family is rounded out with with an eclectic 21 year old boy-man (the boy) who I hardly ever right about now since he's off starting his own life.
I've been a single mama, married mama, divorced mama, career mama, SAHM, and WAHM. There was a short time of my life when I wasn't a mama, but that was a LONG time ago!
I hold an AA, BS, and MA and most say I'm wasting them by devoting my intellectual capabilities and energy in the nurture of the wee ones that I've been entrusted to raise, but there is nothing else I'd rather be doing these days. :)
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